Breaking up can be extremely difficult, whether you have been in a relationship before or this is your first relationship. Feelings of sadness, anger, hurt, and disappointment are very common reactions to breakups. A breakup is essentially a loss of a relationship, and thus breakups usually involve a type of grief.
Here are some important things to remember:
- Take care of your body. This means eating, sleeping and exercising on regular daily schedule.
- Re-connect with your friends and family. There are probably more people who care about you than you know. Reach out to them and let them know what you're going through.
- Keep your distance electronically. Facebook and myspace make it harder!
- Don't try to be friends right away. You will be "just a friend" when you don't need to be a friend anymore
- Be patient with your feelings. Going through a breakup is emotionally draining.
- Use healthy coping. Drinking or using substances to cope with your feelings is not a good idea.
If you are interested in our services, and think that a group setting may help you process or find closure with a previous relationship, consider the Difficult Endings: When Relationships Don't Work Out group.